The Permission Slip You’ve Been Waiting For - Say Yes to Yourself
When I was younger, I remember being told I was selfish—just because I had needs. Because I put myself first, a lot of the time.
The truth? It was self-preservation.
I’m an Aries. I’m an introvert. I’m a Projector (if you’re into Human Design). Translation: I need space. I need rest. My energy levels ebb and flow. And while I can be fiery and focused, I burn out quickly if I’m not careful.
But the world had other ideas.
Be consistent. Push through. Show up—no matter how you feel.
Work harder. Move faster. Take care of everyone else. Always.
Have you ever seen Yes Day? It’s sweet. I love the message it sends about saying yes to joy and fun for our kids.
But I’d love to see a different kind of story—one where a woman says yes to her own soul.
Yes to her needs.
Yes to her truth.
Yes to her desires.
Because the world doesn’t exactly hand us that kind of script.
So today, I want to offer you something it rarely does:
Permission.
What If You Didn't Need to Wait?
I first heard the term “permission slip” from Brené Brown. Maybe you’re familiar with it. If not, there’s a beautiful two-minute video here where she explains the concept.
It’s simple—but powerful.
So here’s yours, right now:
You have permission to:
Slow down
Want more
Change your mind
Listen to that quiet voice inside that says, “There has to be a better way.”
Maybe no one’s ever told you that it’s okay to want what you want. To honor what you need. To not do what’s expected. If you’ve been waiting for someone to tell you it’s okay to listen from within, let this be your green light.
You don’t have to earn it. You don’t have to explain it. It is your human right to choose yourself.
The Weight We Quietly Carry
I talk to so many women who are holding so much. They’ve built a life and raised a family. Kept it all together. From the outside, everything appears to be in order. But on the inside? They’re tired, disconnected, depleted, and unfulfilled.
I know, because I’ve been one of them.
I’ve heard things like:
“I don’t even know what I like to do anymore.”
“I’ve spent so long taking care of everyone else, I’ve forgotten I even have a soul.”
“I feel guilty the moment I even think about doing something just for me.”
Sound familiar?
We’ve become experts at justifying everyone else’s needs—while quietly dismissing our own.
Where That Message Comes From
This isn’t your fault. We live in a culture that celebrates sacrifice. That tells women our worth is tied to how much we give, how little we ask for, and how well we carry the emotional weight of everyone around us.
And if you’re someone who deeply cares (which I know you are), it’s so easy to get lost in that pattern.
But here’s the truth:
You matter too.
Your needs are real.
Your desires are valid.
Your joy isn’t a luxury. It’s a life source.
You don’t have to wait for permission anymore.
What Happens When You Say Yes to You
When you stop waiting and start choosing yourself, something powerful happens. You begin asking:
What do I actually want from this one precious life?
You stop apologizing for needing rest, space, or ease. You notice what lights you up—then you create space for it on purpose. Choosing yourself doesn’t mean walking away from everything. It means coming home to who you really are.
And from that place, you become more grounded, more present, and more alive.
Not just for yourself, but in every space you walk into.
Yes, your friends and loved ones need you. But do they need the woman who is depleted and exhausted, or do they need the one whose light is bright?
Let This Be Your Permission Slip
If you’re ready to explore what joy and alignment could look like for you—gently, without pressure—I’d love to invite you to download the Awaken Your Inner Joy Guided Journal.
This isn’t just a freebie. It’s a soft place to land. A small step inward. A quiet nudge to start tending to the part of you that’s been whispering: “I miss me.”
Inside, you’ll find space to:
Acknowledge what’s no longer working
Reconnect with what brings you joy
Begin living in a way that actually feels like you
No deadlines. No expectations. Just you, returning to yourself—one honest moment at a time.
You don’t need a grand plan. You don’t have to wait for the perfect moment. Let this be it.
Let this be the moment you say yes to you.
